How is your life going?
Are you happy?
Content?
Could your life use some improvements?
Do you ever find yourself forgetting about yourself and your needs?
Do you need to learn how to say, “no”, more often rather than agreeing to things that are not exactly right for you?
Have you been going through this life on auto pilot, saying, “yes”, because you think its the right thing to do, to make other people happy?
Then its time to learn a new word.
No.
No to things that aren’t right for you…
No to thoughts that aren’t helping you…
No to people or experiences that aren’t right for you…
Learn how to pay attention to how you feel in different situations, or around certain people and with different thoughts.
Do some situations or people drain you or make you feel overwhelmed?
Do you notice physical or emotional changes in yourself around different people, situations or with certain thoughts?
Do you find particular thought patterns becoming overwhelming, or are they weighing you down?
Take a step back and think about why you allow so much into your life that is not good for you.
Once you start doing this, more often, and start saying, “no”, to what is not right for you, you start to learn how to value yourself and your needs, which helps you be able to show up better for your life and for yourself.
This creates more balance in your life.
Doing this allows you to be better for those in your life, who are good for your life, as well.
It also allows you to be better contributor to those around you who are beneficial parts of your life.
You can choose your thoughts.
Thoughts are energy, and what you give more energy to grows, just like watering a plant.
Once you finally become tired of being unhappy, start looking for the root causes of your unhappiness.
You can see trails, like a stream, connecting to certain things that are causing you to feel less than good.
You become tired of constantly being upset with yourself for allowing thoughts and experiences into your life that are harming you, or taking you away from being who you prefer to be, or redirecting you away from where you actually want to go.
Look back over your life.
How many times have you said, “yes”, or, “sure”, when you should have said, “no thanks”, or “absolutely not”?
Has it been a problem, for you, to try to make others happy while neglecting your own feelings or needs?
Have you been ignoring your own needs, and devaluing yourself, while also forgetting what it is that you actually want out of this life?
Yeah, that is tough to acknowledge, isn’t it?
It’s okay, now you are aware of it and now you can do something about it.
Look at yourself.
Who are you?
What are you passionate about?
What makes you feel your best?
What do you do to fill your cup?
Oh, is that not something you do very often?
Do you ever do anything for yourself?
Well, its time to start.
You are the leader in your life.
You matter.
You are important.
Start practicing saying, “no”, and you will see a big shift in yourself, your self-confidence and in how you view yourself and your life.
You will stop taking yourself and your time for granted.
You will see your life start to change in ways that will make you wonder what else you can say, “no”, to.
You will value your healthy friendships more, and you will have less of what you don’t want around.
You will see that your needs matter, and it will show you exactly why.
Take your life back.
You deserve it.
Now start saying, “no”, as often as possible to get comfortable with it.
It might take some getting used to, if you are a people pleaser, who has lived a life of being who you thought you needed to be for everyone except for yourself.
Time to change.
I believe in you, and you should, too.
No, I have nothing else to share, time for me to go fill my cup.
See how easy that was?
Your turn.
-M.
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