What is Love

We seek out love, from the beginning of our entrance into this earthly life experience.

But what is love, really?

Why do we seek it out?

Why do we allow so much pain and trauma to come, and accept poor treatment, in our search for love?

There are different types of love, also, which we can get all mashed up, and we can expect a lot from others, in our seeking of love.

We tend to seek love from others to solve our problems.

We think being in love and in a relationship will fix our world (not the whole world, just our world, the one only we exists in).

So we bring someone in, hoping they will be the answer.

Hoping they will validate us, cure us, save us, but what we really need is our own love.

We seek love for protection.

Love seems to be the answer for our need for safety.

We seek it for acceptance.

We think that this love will mean we will be accepted as we are and for who we are.

This is true, but not everyone is able to accept us, nor are we always able to fully accept ourselves.

We hope that love will fulfill us and help us feel whole.

This is a false idealization of love, given to us through the media and through others who also have the false belief of this.

Love cannot make us whole, only if it is love from ourselves to ourselves.

That self-love, self-validation is pretty important and it is way more necessary than we are shown through our life experiences.

We think that love will solve all of our problems.

Well, love can solve many problems, but only the right kind of love can help with this, most specifically, self-love.

Romantic love is not going to solve many problems for us, though.

It can actually cause more harm than good, if one of the involved parties is not in a healthy place of being able to be a receptor of this type of relationship, or of one is seeking more, or has the hopes it will turn into something more permanent and fulfilling than just romance.

Loving others, seeing their truth, accepting them, being kind, loving yourself, being kind to yourself, treating others the way you would like to be treated, treating yourself as you would like others to treat you, finding ways to validate yourself, creating your own sense of safety and protection… this is the gift that love brings.

It creates a space for peace and an opening for learning how to find it, by creating it and allowing it.

We can seek love, we can give love…

Romantic love will not solve as many problems as platonic or self-love.

Self-love and self-realization is the real key to solving our problems and understanding how to exist in this world, the one where we are alone in and the one that we all share.

Find yourself and find your key to your questions of validation.

Find yourself and understand you are the one you have been seeking.

Look within and find the love you have been seeking from others.

You are a magnificent being.

You deserve love.

You deserve peace.

You deserve acceptance.

You deserve safety, protection and most of all, you deserve love.

Not just any love, a healthy love for yourself.

One that will last for your entire earthly experience and beyond.

Sending you love and good intentions for your journey.

Love you all and wish you well on this beautiful experience.

– M.