Memories of the Past
Love and Hate
You grew up in a world that was surrounded by confusion.
So many things seemed to be simple.
So many things seemed to be unobtainable.
You grew to think you understood love.
You grew to feel all too familiar with hate.
A mixed bag of things…
Hate vegetables, love video games.
Parents argued, hate your dad.
Love books, hate school.
So easy.
It’s all so normal.
Though, you felt lost and unsure, never really fitting in.
Seemed like life could be pretty easy, once you grew up to be over 18.
Yet, it didn’t get much better, more rules, less freedom.
You thought it might be different.
Thought it could be easier.
You wanted to grow up and be free, yet now you see it isn’t quite so easy.
What happened to all your dreams?
What happened to all those fancy things?
Didn’t you dream about becoming rich?
Didn’t you think it would be like the flip of a switch?
Wake up and you’re an adult, now the world will be yours to take…
Love and hate.
It’s a real battle.
Freedom and fate…
It’s like eating cake.
You don’t really know, until you grow up and find out…
That cake will now make you gain weight.
Now you also have to pay for that cake.
Then you have to run a mile, or two, to burn off that cake.
Being an adult, it’s not quite so easy, you see.
You thought you understood it all.
You thought you could live easily.
You thought life would be so simple.
Now you have to eat your vegetables and video games are a thing of the past.
Love and hate.
Now you know love is better, and hate is a waste of energy.
Being kind is a better use of your time, but it’s also overwhelming…
Being kind can make you seem weak.
Now you have to learn boundaries.
What even are boundaries and why are they a thing…
Let’s not even get into the complicated world of dating.
Men and women.
Men or women.
You really don’t even need any of that anymore.
It is really not an area you would enjoy to explore.
Time is ticking, and skin is wrinkling.
One day maybe there will be time to just exist.
No worries.
No fears.
No bills.
Not even a doctor promised happy pill.
Just a long moment to remember the freedom of being a child, without a worry about love or hate or anything other than… oh wait…
Let’s take a step back – it is not about love and hate.
It’s just about you.
You must accept your fate.
Dream big.
Find time to play.
Balance it all out.
Try not to stay up too late.
Life is what you make it.
Create it.
– M.
Find Validation Within
Validation
How often do you look to outside sources to feel validated?
This is something I have touched on before, but it definitely feels necessary to discuss again, as I observe it so much, within myself and in others around me.
We want to feel good.
We want to feel accepted.
We want to feel as though we are good enough to be liked or sought after, by others.
Though, why do we go to such lengths as to step away from what is true to us in order to gain validation from others?
Do we even know why it is that we are seeking validation or acceptance from others?
It is a natural part of human nature to desire to be liked and to feel accepted. Though, so many go above and beyond the norms to try to get validated.
Now that we have social media and all these different forms of sharing ourselves, it’s a bigger issue than normal, to seek out validation.
Having followers or getting likes, it seems to be the new normal, yet is it really helping us?
Is it really helping you?
If you need to change your appearance to be accepted by someone, let them go.
If you feel the need to be a different way, that is not natural to your true self, in order to fit in with a group, let them go.
If you need to get on a dating site to feel good about yourself, maybe it’s time to do some self-love practice.
If you feel that you need to have surgery to feel accepted or loved by someone, it might be time to really do some deep inner work and healing, and find new people to be around.
Validation, love, acceptance, these things are all connected. Sometimes they can be confused or seen differently than they are.
So much of the time they can be disregarded, ignored, or even thought of as not necessary…
Yet look at our world.
You are special.
You are unique.
You are loved and accepted by so many, and you are exactly how you need to be, for your life purpose.
When you change yourself, you aren’t allowing yourself to be who you are meant to be.
When you change yourself, you aren’t allowing love in.
When you change yourself you are saying you are not good enough.
There are good changes that we can make.
Facing fears.
Healing from eating disorders.
Learning how to take better care of yourself and of others.
Some changes are necessary and helpful, but there are so many that can cause harm and pull you further away from what is actually really good for you.
Do you look at yourself in the mirror and feel happy?
Do you hear your voice on a voicemail or recording and feel uncomfortable with what you hear?
Do you know your worth, aside from financial gain?
Who are you, behind that mask of flesh and bones?
Who is the YOU deep inside, that inner being?
Do you feel worthwhile?
How do you treat yourself?
How do you show yourself love?
…feel this.
Take a minutes and breathe.
Breathe in through your nose.
Down to your belly.
Let your belly expand.
Let it out through your mouth.
REPEAT.
And again.
Now again.
However many times you feel you need to.
Get centered.
YOU
ARE
ENOUGH
everything in your life is for you.
everything is happening for you.
you are safe.
you are loved.
you are valued.
you are accepted.
Now let go of all this self-hate.
Let go of the need to feel or look like everyone else.
Let go of the need to please everyone else.
You are not supposed to do that.
Validation comes from within.
Love comes from within.
You are always accepted.
You are always loved.
You are doing a great job.
It’s time to learn how to love yourself, just as you are, for who you are.
You are perfect.
You are special.
You are unique.
You are loved.
Thank you for being here.
Now take care of yourself and love yourself so you can enjoy this beautiful life with so much more gratitude and peace.
⁃ M.
Find Validation Within
Nature Wants to Help you Heal
Stop Allowing What is Not Right for You
Learning to Let Go
We have come to a place of understanding that who we are and where we are matters. Although, sometimes we can think that what we have and who we have around us is necessary to hold onto.
We hold onto expectations for ourselves.
We hold onto expectations for others.
We hold onto hopes that we have for ourselves, and we tend expect that these things are going to make us feel better.
This is not the case. How we feel inside is what matters. Letting go of what is on the outside and letting go of attachments to all of these THINGS is what he’s going to bring us peace.
How often have you felt as though moving, having more money, having a relationship or physical things will make you feel better?
Your relationship with yourself, your love for yourself, your acceptance of yourself, your perception of yourself, and your ability to care for yourself and your inner world is more important than anything else.
When we learn to let go of what we think that we need and what we think will bring us happiness, we can allow what is really right for us to be known.
Let go of your attachments to people.
Let go of your attachments to physical things.
Let go of your need to be numb.
Let go of your need to look a certain way.
The only thing that will bring you true peace is to learn to love and accept yourself.
You matter.
Your need to constantly be distracted will bring you more and more dissatisfaction.
You are capable of doing so much more than you know.
You are capable of being at peace with less.
You are capable of feeling at peace on your own.
Let go.
Be free.
You are safe.
You are loved.
Allow it.
Accept it.
Feel it.
You are free.
Let it be.
– M.
Let your Joy Guide your Way
Your Destination is Your Choice
Pay Attention
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